Problems Aren't Personal
Have you ever had an argument and walked away feeling as though you've been picked apart as a person? Maybe you know someone who feels personally attacked every time you discuss a problem. This is because the problem is becoming personal, when it's not. You may be having a hard time separating yourself from the events in our life. When a project fails or a relationship ends you feel like you are the failure. If you allow outside circumstances to influence how you feel about yourself you leave yourself open to being manipulated by...you guessed it, emotional manipulators. You know the one, they know the right thing to say to make you feel amazing but bail on you or take advantage of you before you notice what's really going on.
So what do you need to know to avoid the pitfalls of allowing your self image to be influenced by outside circumstances? Self Love!!! You guessed it, the relationship to yourself is ultimately up to you. How you feel about yourself is 100% your job!!! This means being mindful of your own needs, being compassionate to yourself and giving yourself love. You are not an amazing person because you have an amazing job, NO! You are an amazing person because that is who you are!!! That awesome job is just a bonus.
So back to solving problems. See the situation as just that, a situation. Next check in to what your responsibility is to this situation and make a decision about what you can do to contribute to a solution. When discussing problems with others, take the personal out of it. So instead of saying "You never tell me what is going on" try this instead "I love you as a person, but I see the communication between us has broken down...". Give this a try and see how it works for you.
If you feel you can benefit from building upon this skill, check out my services page for my Angel Coaching packages. Learning to self connect and have a healthy self image is so critical for happiness and immensely beneficial to empaths looking to self connect.
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